Asking for a friend

I wish I were the kind who when I get my period (or a kidney stone, or a cold), gets to put on thick socks and soft pants and curl up on the couch with a quilt, a book, and a cup of hot cocoa.

Before I had kids I had terrible cramps and actually did this sometimes.  Not often… but once I got married, that went out the window.  Especially once I had kids; I didn’t get cramps anymore so my x expected me to be capable, all the time.

I don’t know if not giving in to pampering myself at all (even if I probably really need it) just became a bad habit or what.  

A friend of mine says that doesn’t really happen.  The woman who can do that is a myth.  I really have no idea if he’s right or if I just have an idea in my head that is stupid & out of touch with reality. So I want to know!

Ladies, do you give yourself time off, pull the comforter up over you and put the world on hold if you need to?

Men, do your wives need a day off, pampering, and do you understand and “allow” that?