Note to self
Always try to remember that other people have baggage just like you, only different baggage. That even when someone appears to be insensitive or uncompromising or without empathy, it’s very likely a reaction to some trigger of their own insecurities and not really much to do with you.
You chose the people in your life because they have qualities you like so when they’re acting like nimrods, there’s probably a reason and that reason isn’t necessarily related to you and even if it is, eventually it will come out to be rectified.
Other people have the same feelings you do although they may not express them in the same way or as well as you might. They may stick their foot in it. They may say exactly what they didn’t want to say because they just don’t have the vocabulary. They may regret the way things come out and in an attempt to not hurt you further, will clam up and not be able to express their hurt at all unless you help.
And just because someone might not always be gentle with you doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be gentle with them. Perhaps their wounds are deeper and less healed. Maybe they feel helpless to solve a problem; maybe they feel helpless to comfort you and because of that shut down a little and appear to not care when in reality, they care so deeply that it’s hurting them.
Remember these things and be kind. Because your kindness isn’t going to hurt you and may very well help those you care about.